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“The Secret” Law of Attraction Doesn’t Work: Here’s Proof

“The Secret” is a book by Rhonda Byrne about the so-called Law of Attraction, the idea that you can have whatever you want, you just have to make it manifest in your life.  You can attract whatever good fortune you wish just by thinking about it the right way!

If it sounds too good to be true…

Even if you find your vocation and visualise it (which is hard enough), not a lot will happen without taking action, actually implementing a plan to get there.

This is an article balancing the commercial hype; the selling people positive thinking to make the purveyors of that positive thinking the ones who manifest getting rich!

‘The Secret’ Law of Attraction Doesn’t Work: Here’s Proof

“You’re all going to die”: A scientifically proven pep-talk for winning.

Macabre.  Why would this help?!

For some personality types, it’s definitely offputting and they won’t be interested.  However, for others, it can literally be a game changer.

“While laying out “how winning is done,” Rocky Balboa shrewdly noted that “the world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows.” A new study suggests that point is dead on.

Basketball players that were grimly reminded of their own inevitable demise before playing took more shots and scored more points in a study published in an upcoming issue of Journal of Sport and Exercise Psychology. The researchers behind the experiments hypothesize that the pep-talk tactic fits with the established “terror management theory,” which proposes that humans are motivated to seek self-esteem, meaning, and symbolic immortality—in this case becoming a famous athlete—in order to manage their fear of death…”

Read the full article at: https://arstechnica.com/science/2016/11/youre-all-going-to-die-a-scientifically-proven-pep-talk-for-winning/

“Introverts Don’t Hate People, They Hate Shallow Socializing”

Great article from Rachel Ginder for introverts and highly sensitive people (INTJ personality type):

“…As an introvert, it’s my natural tendency to always want every interaction to be about establishing a deep connection, but that can put too much pressure on the average casual conversation. Sometimes it’s just about staying in practice with my (albeit limited) people skills until the day when someone suddenly wants to talk about their dreams and goals and all the things that makes them tick. It’s impossible to know where a conversation will lead unless you try.

I’m aware of just how ridiculous my socializing philosophy will sound to extroverts. To them, socializing itself is the end goal…”

“…When I socialize, I’m not looking for a way to just pass the time. I already have a full list of hobbies and interests and not enough hours in the day to enjoy them all. But I am always looking for a new person with whom I can share my passions and my world. Sometimes meeting that one new person can be worth the agony of socializing. I like to think I’m the kind of person worth socializing for, and I know I’m not the only one of my kind.

So, my fellow introverts, please occasionally put down your books, go out, and search for the people who make socializing worth it — because I’m out there looking for you.”

Introverts Don’t Hate People, They Hate Shallow Socializing

Hacking Happiness

I jumped on Dr Robert Lustig’s new book, “Hacking the American Mind”.  It promised to show the differences between happiness and pleasure (reward) and how they are easily confused.

“…things can bring you pleasure. But no thing can make you happy. Experiences can make you happy. People can make you happy. You can make you happy…”

He describes happiness as a state of contentment  and connected to the neurotransmitter serotonin.  Pleasure is different; the rush from gaining a reward for doing something, connected to another neurotransmitter, dopamine.  (From my research, I’d say the highest dopamine point is anticipation, right before you get what you want (something important to bear in mind from a sales/marketing perspective).)

So, how to avoid chasing after happiness as something elusive, thinking that there’s a right to be “happy” all the time?  As you might expect, life doesn’t work like that.  It’s a mixture of highs and lows.

But, balance the serotonin and dopamine and you might think things aren’t so bad.

I Wanna Be Sedated! (Escape from Uncertainty)

A new day, a new year.  People making plans, looking to be “positive” and make changes.

Life’s an R&D Project – it seldom goes to plan.  Make plans, take action, everything goes to Hell and then you improvise.

This isn’t fun for many people.

Oliver Burkeman in The Antidote*, “What motivates our investment in goals and planning for the future, much of the time, isn’t any sober recognition of the virtues of preparation and looking ahead. Rather, it’s something much more emotional: how deeply uncomfortable we are made by feelings of uncertainty. Faced with the anxiety of not knowing what the future holds, we invest ever more fiercely in our preferred vision of that future — not because it will help us achieve it, but because it helps rid us of feelings of uncertainty in the present.”

My suggestions instead of resolutions?  Broad plans, longer term.  Some specifics short term.  But work on one day at a time and modify your plans as often as necessary.  Try to work with uncertainty, because one of the certainties of life is change.

Yes, have goals, but don’t fixate that they are the only goals and there’s just one way to reach them.

(*The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking)

“A mind that has mastered its art is free to go beyond convention.”

The entrepreneur in me was immediately attracted to this statement.

It’s from a Glenfiddich whisky ad currently playing on TV which also hooked me in due to us living in fairly close proximity to the distillery.

And another part of the ad sparked a whole series of thoughts, “…the gift of irrationality…”.

There’s a part of us that can’t readily be explained, often defies logic and can lead to things in life that we might never have thought possible.

Take that thought into 2018  🙂

The Positive Power of Negative Thinking

Y’know the oft applied theme that you must be positive to achieve or get anywhere in life?  Would you be surprised to know that it doesn’t always work and isn’t a blanket approach for everyone?

“…If you want to sabotage defensive pessimists, just make them happy…”

“…If you’re the kind of person who’s always telling other people to look on the bright side, you might want to reconsider. Whether people succeed is not a matter of thinking positively or negatively, but rather whether they choose the strategies that match their thinking styles. As psychologists Heidi Grant Halvorson and Tory Higgins write in Focus, “It’s the fit that counts…””

“…And if you’re a defensive pessimist, when preparing for a performance that really matters, you might want to list your weaknesses instead of your strengths, and drink a glass of anxiety rather than a shot of confidence.”

Whole article from Adam Grant here: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/20131015140307-69244073-the-positive-power-of-negative-thinking

Pre-diabetes…what?

This is a coaching site, what has pre-diabetes to do with anything?!

Energy.  Mood.  Motivation and drive.  Performance from physical and/or mental standpoints.  To name but a few.

I think this topic affects a lot of people!  It’s something I’m passionate about because my Father died from complications of Type II Diabetes.  The disease compromised his health and performance at work with increasing severity over 15-20 years.

However, there’s evidence out there that my Father’s condition may have been reversible if he changed aspects of his diet before his organs became severely damaged.  And not in the way you’d expect from the medical advice of the last 40-odd years!  Some eminent scientists and researchers now challenge the dogma of, “eat less, move more”, “a calorie is a calorie” and that complex carbohydrates and whole grains are good for everyone!

There’s good scientific research that many people may be going through each day in a state of health that’s below their best and which could eventually lead to ill health.  The data have been available for many years but only via the freedom of information via the Internet has it been possible for an average person to read the research and challenge the idea that, “you get old, you get diseases, you die” and we can do nothing about it.

What if you could have the knowledge to be able to change not only feeling better and having more energy today, but lessening the risks of a variety of “diseases of aging”, e.g. metabolic syndrome, Type II Diabetes, strokes, heart attacks and possibly cancer?

Sounds like quackery or a pharmaceutical company sales pitch, doesn’t it?

Don’t believe  the naysayers Dear Reader, read on…

I’m a bit late with this but there was a special offer for World Diabetes Day, 14th November, on dietdoctor.com  (be aware that the price increases from the original offer, each day, from the 14th Nov).

https://www.dietdoctor.com/special-offer-world-diabetes-day-buy-diabetes-unpacked-reduced-price